Great read. Thank you.
As one gets older this doesn’t get any easier. The looming challenges that stem from the raw physical degradation of aging makes it harder to give up the good for the perfect. It’s not hard to imagine every partner after 50 as a lifelong partner because after 50 what’s left of life seems very short (evidenced by the rising mortality and morbidity of those around you).
After decades of living up to the pressures of being a “good provider” older single men, now free of those burdens, often are just happy to coast along in a steady relationship which is good (steady satisfying sex, friendship, loving behavior), but short of perfect from the woman’s view because it lacks the financial security component they have been conditioned to demand from a “true love”.
Older single women, who are financially secure and free from the burdens of mothering children and over dependent or unstable husbands, are reluctant to marry a good partner because they are not willing to commit once again to the burdensome responsibilities of marriage. At the same time, though, they don’t want to break off such a good relationship.
If older people pass on good relationships in order to wait for the perfect, they are likely to spend most of the last good years of their lives alone.