I think I could be in an open relationship, but also would probably do little with the “freedom”. I’m easy to satisfy, so one woman at a time is plenty for me.

When my ex (I’m coming up on 1 yr divorce anniversary) got deep into an emotional affair she thought she had hidden it well, but it was very obvious to me. She was dealing with aging and body image issues and just was not very interested in sex anymore. I finally confronted her and she was relieved to be “busted”.

I suggested we open our marriage of 26 years and that she go ahead and have a sexual affair with her lover and that I would wait and stay with her and engage no one myself and welcome her back exclusively again if that’s what she wanted and hope that such an experience would serve to re-spark her libido.

Well, she told me that was a grand idea and it only took her a few hours to get up the nerve to proposition her lover. She has always been very insanely jealous and repressed my outgoing nature. This turn of events meant that she would have to finally stop her groundless accusations. The weight that lifted off my shoulders was worth $5000 worth of marriage counseling!

The lover, though, refused to have sex with her, and also refused to say why. My ex imploded with shame and wouldn’t stop going on and on about how she couldn’t stay married to a pervert who would allow her to have sex with other men. We decided to cash in our chips and she returned to Mexico to take care of her Mother. I’ve moved on. I’m deeply in love again and my new partner is 16 years younger than me. I don’t dwell on it, but it is not unreasonable to assume that the day will come, no matter how much my new partner loves me, that she will want to have sex with other men. I’m prepared to handle that, but would never discuss this subject with her for fear of being accused of being a pervert again. Go figure!

SGI Buddhist, Loves Irish and Latin American Literature, History buff, knows a great deal about Medicare

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