Suggestion: In your local busy sphere don’t date and don’t look for anyone. Just relax and see if anything real yet special happens. Then, as a theraputic supplement to that approach establish some vacation boyfriends. Older wealthy monkish guys who live far away and would be thrilled to “spoil” you occasionally when you have the opportunity to escape your real life and are open to just being cared for and doted upon. They are not hard to find. In fact they line up here regularly in your comment section ready to volunteer their services.